Wednesday, November 28, 2012
Promises, Promises
I've promised myself (and, more importantly, my hubby) that I will not buy any more clothes until we have a placement. We have plenty of things to get us through a day or two of either sex, from preemie to 18 months. I really don't need to buy any more clothes. But seriously...how cute are these?
Friday, November 9, 2012
Truths About Prepping for Foster Care/Adoption
We had our final home visit on Monday night, and things went really well. Our licensing worker has been really great, and we're a little disappointed that we're finished with her! From now on we will work with other staff at Iowa KidsNet to handle placements and relicensing process (next year). Abby, our licensing worker, had all of our paperwork, and had been able to write up most of our home study (that's the official report that goes to the the state). She just needed clarification on a few points, and some more phone numbers for references (so if we gave her yours, be nice!) So the rest of this approval process is now in the hands of the wonderful people at Iowa KidsNet and DHS. We have done everything we could to make it go quickly, and now we wait.
Not having tasks to focus on makes my mind wander, and I thought I would address some of these wandering thoughts with a post.
Truth #1: I still wonder "What if this doesn't work?" How long, and how often, will Dan and I be able to do this process without finding our baby? We know that it may not (probably won't) be the first baby who stays with us. But how many placements will come and go before we can't handle it any more? Logically, I know that there really isn't an answer to this right now. The answer to this will come when, and if, that situation occurs. This process, like any other, is one that we have to experience, not plan. Hard to remember when you'd really like to plan for holidays next year, or a summer vacation, or family pictures.
Truth #2: I'm still a little jealous. I still have lots of friends having babies. And I still get a twinge of jealousy in knowing that their path is permanent. I still feel sad that I may not be able to offer my stories of labor and delivery when the girls in the office start talking about it. I may not know what the first 6 months, or 8 months, or 10, are like with a baby. But I am reminded, when someone I know is looking down a similar path that Dan and I are traveling asks me about the process, that I have my own stories to share, and my own advice to offer. A difficult truth for a traditionalist like me, but a truth none the less.
Truth #3: I trust God a little more today than yesterday. Because we are never given a path that we aren't able to walk. And families come in all shapes and sizes. And because I haven't been let down yet.
Happy Friday, ya'll!
-Jenn
Not having tasks to focus on makes my mind wander, and I thought I would address some of these wandering thoughts with a post.
Truth #1: I still wonder "What if this doesn't work?" How long, and how often, will Dan and I be able to do this process without finding our baby? We know that it may not (probably won't) be the first baby who stays with us. But how many placements will come and go before we can't handle it any more? Logically, I know that there really isn't an answer to this right now. The answer to this will come when, and if, that situation occurs. This process, like any other, is one that we have to experience, not plan. Hard to remember when you'd really like to plan for holidays next year, or a summer vacation, or family pictures.
Truth #2: I'm still a little jealous. I still have lots of friends having babies. And I still get a twinge of jealousy in knowing that their path is permanent. I still feel sad that I may not be able to offer my stories of labor and delivery when the girls in the office start talking about it. I may not know what the first 6 months, or 8 months, or 10, are like with a baby. But I am reminded, when someone I know is looking down a similar path that Dan and I are traveling asks me about the process, that I have my own stories to share, and my own advice to offer. A difficult truth for a traditionalist like me, but a truth none the less.
Truth #3: I trust God a little more today than yesterday. Because we are never given a path that we aren't able to walk. And families come in all shapes and sizes. And because I haven't been let down yet.
Happy Friday, ya'll!
-Jenn
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